{"id":115282,"date":"2022-10-17T09:55:00","date_gmt":"2022-10-17T09:55:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/cafemomcom.bigscoots-staging.com\/blog\/new-moms-battle-depression-ocd-made-her-feel-motherhood-mistake"},"modified":"2024-09-02T14:22:03","modified_gmt":"2024-09-02T14:22:03","slug":"new-moms-battle-depression-ocd-made-her-feel-motherhood-mistake","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/cafemom.com\/parenting\/new-moms-battle-depression-ocd-made-her-feel-motherhood-mistake","title":{"rendered":"How a New Mom&#8217;s Battle With Depression &#038; OCD Made Her Feel Motherhood Was a Mistake"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><em>Our monthly column <a href=\"https:\/\/cafemom.com\/series\/mom-with\">MOM WITH<\/a> aims to redefine what it means to be a &quot;normal&quot; mother by focusing on how it feels to live with a mental disorder. We see you, we hear you, and we&#39;re in this together.<\/em><\/p>\n<p>Sari De has had bouts of depression since she was a teenager and was diagnosed with OCD late in life, at 28. Now the founder of <a href=\"https:\/\/www.nineofus.com\/consulting\">Nine of Us<\/a>, a DEI consultancy, she is also mom to her 9-month-old son and struggles daily.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cIn my mid-30s, I was working at a tech company, doing 50\/60 hour weeks and experienced pretty crippling burnout that showed up as panic attacks and anxiety, as well as physical symptoms like hair loss and slipping a disc in my back\u201d Sari tells CafeMom. <\/p>\n<p>OCD can affect motherhood in a variety of ways, explains Dr. Robin Hornstein, a psychotherapist.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cFirst of all, we could be talking about obsessive thoughts that interfere with being present,\u201d Hornstein says. \u201cAn example of this could be constantly thinking that you are a bad mom and examining things you have said or done that are evidence to you that this is true. This could be accompanied by not being aware and emotionally available for your children or constantly <a href=\"https:\/\/cafemom.com\/parenting\/221465-different-parenting-style\">comparing yourself to other moms<\/a>. OCD can have so many presentations; some can be compulsive behaviors. There are so many ways this hits new moms. Having a child means your whole world changes and the responsibility can feel crippling.\u201d<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Our monthly column MOM WITH aims to redefine what it means to be a &quot;normal&quot; mother by focusing on how it feels to live with a mental disorder. We see you, we hear you, and we&#39;re in this together. 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